A Beautiful Sunny Day

Today, turned into something remarkable. I was rolling around in bed trying to find a spot where my hip wouldn’t hurt when Lovely appeared and shook me awake. “Don’t you remember that you promised to take me for my blood test this morning at nine?”

“Okay, okay,” I answered, “I thought you were only kidding.” I rolled over my aching hip and out of bed. We were on our way at 9:06 a.m. Before we left, however, she weaseled me into taking her to the last Farmer’s Market of the year in LaGrange, IL. One of her girlfriends has been bragging about this market all summer long, and she reasoned, since we are going to Blue Island this morning maybe we could swing by and see what Aldona has been talking about. The hip pain must have affected my brain, because I reluctantly agreed to take her.

The Cook County Health Clinic in Blue Island is about thirty miles closer to home than her doctor’s office in downtown Chicago. We pulled off the interstate and drove to Western Avenue in Blue Island. I turned onto Western and spotted an open parking space, so I took it. Previous experience had taught me that if I saw something within one block of the clinic, I should seize it. If I hadn’t, I would have wound up circling the blocks of narrow crowded side streets for ten minutes looking for an opening.

The sun shone brightly, and it was a balmy fifty degrees without a wisp of wind. We enjoyed the one-block walk to the clinic. A pleasant young lady security guard, all of four-feet-ten tall, guided us to where we needed to go. I wondered if she was carrying a weapon; it might have explained why she looked as wide as she was tall. The lab was in the basement of this three story brick building every floor of which was dedicated to various diseases. The elevator opened to a miraculously empty waiting room. As we sat waiting another elderly couple arrived. A tall black man pushing a short fat black lady in a wheel chair. I noticed how attentive he was to her needs. For some reason which I will not argue with the old couple were called in first. We sat and watched for our turn to come up. The lab door opened and the elderly couple exited but stopped. The old man helped the lady out of the wheelchair and then stood behind her. She stood hunched slightly forward holding a plastic cup and stared at the door in front of her. Her eyes were fixated on the door, but she looked as though any movement of air would have knocked her down into a face plant with the floor. Finally, she stepped to the door and grabbed the door knob. She successfully entered the rest room to donate her urine for testing.

Lovely got called next, and as I waited, the old man wheeled over, parked the wheelchair, and sat next to me. I noticed he wore a sweatshirt monogrammed with “SJC Basketball.” I leaned over and asked him if his shirt referred to Saint Joseph’s College. He looked at me, stunned. “Yes, it does?”

“What year were you there?”

He laughed and said, “No, I didn’t attend; my daughter did. She graduated in 2017.” I explained that the reason I asked is that I attended school there in 1956-57. In the next ten minutes, we became fast friends as we shared some tales about the school. His daughter was on the SJC basketball team all four years she attended. He told me he drove the hundred miles to watch every home game while she was at school. Her graduating class of 2017 was the last year the school existed.

We discussed how schools have changed over the years. “There was a time when men were restricted to the lobby of a women’s dorm, then when my youngest daughter attended the University of Illinois, men and women shared rooms on the same floors.” I told him that when I started at Saint Joe’s, it was a coed school. There were 780 men and one girl. Finally, the restroom door popped open, and the little lady shuffled out, looking like she would fall on her face the whole time. That’s when he told me that she was his older sister and that she was ninety-seven years old, he was eighty-eight. That is when I went into shock. He was a year older than me but much more spry and younger looking.

We arrived at 53 LaGrange Road at 11:00 a.m. The farmer’s market circles the city hall. The street-level municipal parking lot was jammed, and I was forced to use the three-story garage. I finally squeezed into a space at the 2.5 level. The market was well-attended, and many vendors were still selling. Most of the stalls hawked food, honey, soap, and doughnuts, but there was one farmer with fresh vegetables. Lovely and I split up because I had to take a call from my son-in-law. He reported that my daughter’s conditioned worsened from yesterday on her birthday when we visited and he was forced to up her morphine to give her relief. She has been fighting brain cancer for ten years and has run out of treatment options, and is now in hospice care.

Just like that, my beautiful sunny day darkened.

Strange New Generation

Yesterday, I undertook a major step in regenerating my physical ability. Over the past several months, I have noticed that my legs and, in general, an overall body weakness happening. This was beginning to drive me nuts. Finally, I overcame the malaise and started taking a walk in the mornings before breakfast. No food until I walk. At first, it was a walk around the block. It felt like my legs were anchors, and I dragged them along in a shuffle. In my mind, I kept telling myself, lift your feet. The shuffle persisted, but so did I. By the fourth day, I was feeling a bit better and told myself it is time to raise the bar. Instead of walking around the block, I set the goal to walk to the library along the lake trail. I made it, but when I got home, all my energy was gone. The next day I rested, no walking. Then came Sunday. I went to mass, and came home for breakfast. I committed to help with a Lions event at the Farmer’s Market between 10:00a.m.-1:00 p.m. and decided that parking would be a pain, so I would walk. I did. I have walked into town hundreds of times before, never taking more than thirty minutes to do it. Yesterday It took me fifty minutes, but I made it. I have finally reached the point where I will tell the story I intended to tell in the first place.

The Lions had scheduled the Lions of Illinois Foundation sight and sound screening bus to come to Frankfort. It looks like a mini school bus, except it has no windows and is not yellow. Inside, it is separated into two sections: one for hearing tests and the second for vision tests. The Lion Volunteer who drove from Mattoon, IL (2.5 hrs) is also the trained technician administering the tests. We are his office office staff, signing people in, and directing traffic in and out of the bus. My job was to hail people attending the market and offer them a free screening. To do that I stood on the street in line with the Old Plank Trail bicycle path. It was busy with pedestrians visiting the market. Simultaneous to all this activity a number of Lions were there hawking tickets for our annual Wurst Fest. I was doing both, hawking tickets and vision screening.

A middle aged man about forty was semi-walking riding his bike through the crowd as he straddled past me I asked him if he had his Wurst Fest ticket yet? “What’s that,” he asked. I replied, “You are not from here are you?”

“No,” he replied, “I am in shock.” I asked him where he was from, and he told me Taylor Street in Chicago. He was far from home, so I proceeded to explain what the Wurst Fest is. “I am in shock,” he said again. I finally asked him “what is so shocking?”

“Everyone is married!” Then it came to me. Taylor street is near the center of Chicago in the U of I and Little Italy neighborhoods. Next to that is a string of hospitals, Stroger, Cook County, Rush, and University of Illinois. Young people abound in these areas. Some study and some work at the hospitals. They ride bikes and electric scooters to get around. They work, eat, go out at night to drink, listen to loud music, and hook up. They sow their oats. Then something happens and they find a life partner and enter the next phase of life; they wind up in towns like Frankfort with wives, kids, schools, churches, homes , Sunday hand holding or stroller pushing strolls through the farmer’s market etc. He just didn’t enter that phase yet, and maybe he never will, but at least he can say he caught a glimpse of it in Frankfort.

Cherry Pie and the Kids

Grumpa Joe Looks at FlowerWhat a great weekend this has been for me! Yesterday, I had the honor of being with my three children and their families. We celebrated the birthday of my namesake grandson. All of his cousins and uncles were there from my side of the family. From his dad’s side he had his one aunt and his grandparents.

Today, Peggy and I ventured out to mass at Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church. Afterward, we visited the Frankfort Farmer’s Market. She bought a fresh cherry crumble pie. We were home only an hour when Peg’s grand daughter Shannon came by. It is her birthday, she is twenty seven. Our plan was to have a party for her, but her mom had to work and her sister was out of town. Instead, we accepted an invitation to eat lunch with my daughter and her family. We haven’t done that in quite some time. They took us to the Brazilian Steak House in Tinley Park. The food was good, and the wine was even better. Afterward we adjourned to our house for cherry pie and ice cream. Peg and I are so stuffed, we can’t move.

Later in the evening, son Mike came over with his three kids. We sat and chatted for over two hours. Its even more fun when the children are old enough to participate in the adult conversation. I showed Danny my cukaracha shirt. He wasn’t impressed, he still likes his shirt better.

Kids, I love you and cherish every moment we spend together.

This afternoon, Peggy called her son to wish him a happy father’s day. She reached him in a car on Interstate 65, eighty miles south of Indianapolis. He is on his way home from vintage drag races in Bowling Green, Kentucky. I spoke with Larry and got a first hand account of the day at the races.

It rained this afternoon, and that kept us in the house. Tonight, our Concerts on the Green begin with a SInatra Impersonator.  If it is not rained out, the program should be very good.

How much more could a father-grandfather ask for? I’m not sure my  heart can take any more excitement.